I Will Wait For You

Today I decided to watch Jannet's poem from P4CM called 'I will wait for you'. I brought this big gun out because I felt like that girl who's so single its sad. Funny how at that moment the reasons I chose to leave the relationship I was in about a year and some months ago and thus become single were quickly forgotten. Which made me start to wonder why a woman's greatest desire is to have a man that will love her, protect her, treat her right and so on. Even we Christian women desire to have someone who'll fill up that "position". What is it that makes us want to have all that I have mentioned? Is it because we are lonely? Or perhaps it's because that's just how God created us to be? What is it about the presence of a man in a women's life that she'd be willing to go through a lot to keep a man who clearly is not God's best for her, a man who's words may lead the female mind to think that she's loved, yet his actions deny the very love he proclaims to have for her. What is it about a man's presence in a woman's life that clouds her judgement and makes her refuse to see what is evident but rather choose to see what "you guys don't see what I see in him?"

Maybe my previous questions may have some people say that it looks like I am painting the male species black. That's not my aim, its just me questioning the kind of love that a woman not only voices out but lives out to a guy who does not know Love hence cannot love her the way she should be loved. When a woman loves, she loves for real and I guess all the guys who may be reading this may say that this statement holds much more truth to it when it comes to guys I perhaps its true. What I have realised though is that untill a woman is fully content with and believes in the love that Christ has for her, like most people say, she'll go looking for that which only Christ can give her.

A lot of people seek their better half, a person who completes them, but you see that's where we get it all wrong. Who ever we marry was not created to complete us, but to complement us. Look at most of the relationships around you or rather married couples. Most of these couples consist of individuals who may have certain common interests but are totally different characteristic wise; a quiet shy man usually goes for that woman who's quite outspoken, people who are outgoing tend to go for the reserved. All these characteristics in the other complement our own and in a way that beautifully amplifies our personality which makes us both stand out in that relationship. Its very sad when you see people in relationships where instead of amplifying each others personalities, people are rather dragged down and left to feel worthless. Why a lot of women believe that when a guy emotionaly or physically abuses you that's him loving you, I realy don't get, maybe it's because I have never been in that situation. But that can absolutely not be the truth! For any man to be capable of loving a woman the way she needs to be loved, I strongly believe that that man has got to have an intimate relationship with God. How can you know what love is when you don't even know who Love is? The one who's able to show and reveal to you certain things about your complemetary other that no other man knows which will ultimately aid you in loving her the best way possible. This is why I refuse to date a guy who does not know God.

Apart from all that I have mentioned, there's also the question everyone struggles to answer when it comes to their complementary other; who are they? It could be a man you randomly met at a wedding, a service, in the TV room, in church, varsity, high school, through friends, or even that friend whom you've overlooked because "bad hot-looking boys" were too irrisitable but yet has still waited on you to finaly see that he's that guy that God set apart for you. But at the end of it all, you'll never know untill you ask God to clearly show you and I mean clearly because most times, especially us women, we tend to let our emotions make our decisions for us and not God's peace. We tend to get way ahead of ourselves due to our impatience and we date guys we should have never dated because we just could not wait on God. For most of us this has proven to be a very unfortunate error leaving us with a lot of regrets.

Trust you me, the best thing you can do is wait on God. And as you do, don't think that you'll get that prince in knight and shining amour, all perfect and flawless. That's a deception you dont want to have. A man is not a super being who's void of faults. So whoever God brings your way, when He does, accept him for who he is with all his flaws and those things he does or habits he has that irritate you. He's not perfect, neither are you, but both of you are there to help see the other become that person God has created them to be, a masterpiece in the eyes of God.